Optimal Comfortability

Jessica Mckenna
Aug 19, 2017
3 min read

Comfortability is something everyone strives to have. A comfortable job, a comfortable partner, a comfortable life would be perfect. There is a lot of positive things about having a comfortable stable life and I always thought it was only positive until recently. Hear me out. When you are comfortable you are used to everything the way it is. Stable. When something changes like you lose your job or your boyfriend for example, your stuck. That's what I have been thinking about lately. A girl that I know had a long term boyfriend, around 2 years. She was so in love and so comfortable that when they split up suddenly (the guy is a jerk) she was unstable. Not unstable in the sense of crazy but she lost her footing in life and was a little lost. This is why tinder was invented. Just joking. But tinder is her new boyfriend of the moment. Not a joke. She's a notorious people watcher. She watches what everyone else's life is like and compares it to her own. She doesn't need to do that. She's an awesome person, going awesome places, but alas her nature takes over and she reevaluates everything. That's what happens when you are comfortable and then suddenly not. You become vulnerable. That's just one example. I know plenty of people who were happy and relaxed in a job to suddenly have that taken away from them. It happens. The old saying 'life isn't fair' is as true as the day that person came up with it. I am comfortable with my job, my boyfriend and in general, not bragging at all. My life could blow up at any minute, lord knows it has before. But now that I am so comfortable I wonder what else I need in my life because comfortable can also mean boring. My poor boyfriend will probably read this and freak thinking I'm calling him boring. I am definitely not saying that. I am calling my day to day life a little lacklustre at the moment. I work, I take photos for my blog, I sleep, sometimes (rarely) work out and that is pretty much my day to day. My boyfriend study's and works so we don't get exciting adventures often at the present moment. I normally say I'm in a rut or I'm feeling uninspired or I need a permanent holiday majority of the week. Sure, I have a job I enjoy, but sometimes I feel like I'm not progressing anywhere. On top of that I feel like I'm getting older and I haven't accomplished enough. I want to blame the internet for making me feel unaccomplished, but I know I can't pass the blame because I'm the one comparing my life and that's only my doing. But it's so hard not to. I truly believe if I wasn't on social media I would be completely content with my current life. But I also believe if it wasn't for social media, I wouldn't be striving for something bigger and better. You can either thank or blame, but blaming doesn't look pretty on anyone. Your probably reading this and thinking one of two things. One, that's life, everyone feels like that, get over it. (Wait that's three things) And two, this is my life right now too. Not thinking either of those things? My bad. In the short, I'm writing this post for that girl I mentioned before. She compares her life to everyone else's, as do most people, including myself. But not everything is always what it seems. Just because someone looks comfortable and super happy, that doesn't mean they are. Nothing is permanent anymore. I say anymore because tattoos used to be permanent but now they are not (obviously). Life is exactly what you make it, push yourself to make yours great. Wow I just sounded like a life coach or something. Do whatever you want. It's your life!